Episode 31 | Swinging Part 2: BDSM, Single Swingers, Bisexuality, Open Relationships
We’re joined once again by Cooper and Ginger from Life on the Swingset for a lively discussion on ethical non-monogamy that covers topics including BDSM in the swing community, single swingers and the different challenges faced by men and women as singles, bisexual curiosity, swinging vs. open relationships, sex related injuries, couples playing together or apart, keeping the mood intact when something goes haywire, and double vaginal penetration.
Yeah, it’s a super-sized episode.
We also do a fun little experiment in interactive podcasting, with Cooper and Ginger giving Shara a virtual spanking on the show. DING.
Show links:
Direct Download: Sexual-Dark-Age-031-Swinging-Part-2.mp3
I had a revelation a couple months ago that changed my whole outlook on ‘our’ sexuality. My wife and I have been swinging on and off for a little over 12years. We are now of sufficient age and openness that our pool of play partners is the largest its ever been. We have always been into the foursome dynamic and much of our enjoyment came from the compersion.
I was feeling an awkwardness during many of our encounters surrounding the m-m contact. The awkwardness came more from how the other man would react, not from my fears or hang ups. I then realized, that if my wife can enjoy having sex with both men and women, why can’t I? I approached her about this and we went in search of a man who we could experiment with on bi-sexual night at our local club. We did have a successful 3-some in which both men did have oral sex with each other and we had a satisfying true 3-some encounter. This positive encounter pushed me to be more proactive in looking for, and enjoying, full foursome encounters.
However, we have yet to have a second encounter where the other man is open to this sort of contact. I want to start disclosing that our ideal play involves play where there are no bounds specific to gender. That we prefer, but don’t require a full foursome experience. However, my wife is hesitant, She feels it will limit our play pool (I don’t doubt this). Men who we could normally play with (those I would respect their boundaries) if I remained ‘straight’.
What kinds of things can we do to express an openness to this style of play without scaring off potential partners?
I think we can definitely help you with this, but I’m going to consult my friendly neighborhood bi-male swinger before I open my mouth. We’ll talk about this on a listener mail some time soon.