Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Episode 28 | Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with potential new playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink.

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Kink-positive books for newbies (at Amazon):

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
The Loving Dominant

Direct Download: Sexual-Dark-Age-028-Listener-Mail-Vol-9.mp3


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  1. Curiouskity April 21, 2011 at 12:06 pm · · Reply

    I wanted to say that I agree with you regarding Fetlife. I enjoy that site. It is full of helpful information that has helped me a lot.

  2. This is going to sound silly but I say this with all sincerity. I am a straight woman that accepts and understands both gays and lesbians. They are like every other person and should be treated with the same respect and rights. I also accept bisexuals but I am yet to understand them. is it at all possible for a bisexual man and woman to both give their perspective on how they feel personally and sexually towards their sexuality so I and others are better informed and therefore able to understand

    • Curiouskity April 26, 2011 at 9:56 pm · · Reply

      Well Caroline I think it is very nice that you accept people who are gay and lesbian even if you don’t understand them.

      I am a bisexual women. Personally I feel good toward my sexuality, now. I had been hiding it since I was very young. I didn’t understand at the time that I was bisexual but as I grew older I knew. I grew up in a Catholic house hold and went to Catholic school. For a long time I had thought something was wrong with me because I was taught that it was wrong. I didn’t tell anyone about how I was feeling. It was very hard to hide that part of myself. I never felt that I was turely myself.

      In the last few years I have opened up this part of myself to some of my family and my close friends. It felt great to let it out. To no longer hide the fact that I was attracted to both men and women. Some people accepted me, others didn’t. I got to keep the friends who really mattered and loved me for who I am. Now I feel whole. I don’t feel like I’m lieing to people I love on who I am.

      Sexually I enjoy being bisexual. Not one gender can satisfy my wants and needs. I love to sleep with a man and enjoy every part of him but at the same time I want the feel and touch of a women. It is not that I don’t enjoy a man and all he has to offer. I just also enjoy the caress and taste of a women. Women know, usually, what women like. We explore our bodies so if you know what you like, chances are a women likes the same thing. I enjoy the fun and mystery of figuring out if what I like is what they like as well. When I am with a women it gives me the same feelings as if I am with a man; the excitment, build up, love, and desire. When you add this all together it makes for very fun threesomes. But that is who I am. I am a person who not only can enjoy the experience of a man entering me, but enjoy the scent and taste of a women.

      It is a bit difficult to explain why we are attracted to people or why we are the way we are but I hope this gives you a bit of a understanding.

    • I’ll see if we can work this into an upcoming listener mail. Shara can speak for a bi girl, I’ll see if I can round up a bi guy to round out the dialogue. And, of course, posts here would be more than welcome 🙂

  3. Hi J.V.,

    When I was listening to you and Shara on the podcast talk about Fetlife I kept thinking that you should create your own group on Fetlife for fans of your show. It would be a good place for newbies to kink to start on Fetlife and we could get some folks from Fetlife to find your podcast through the group.

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