This year's Desire Resort takeover brought a new and improved Dungeon Night, and a couple dozen perverts decided to join our live audience recording the next day...where we were able to do an absinthe tasting thanks to the generosity...

Part 2 of our post-fair discussion. In the conclusion we talk more about our Saturday night play party (including Sexxypixie signing Shara's ass), vibrators with rolling unlock codes, and everyone gets together to give Gabriella her birthday spankings.   Thanks to...

After Folsom Street Fair, we sat down with our friends to talk about the sights and scenes of the weekend. We talk more about Twisted Windows, especially Saki & Mayu's intense shibari performance, though the word "shibari" alone fails entirely to do...

While we were in San Francisco for Folsom Street Fair, Shara and the other submissives recorded their own episode on Saturday evening while the doms were cooking dinner and otherwise entertaining themselves.  They spend a good bit of time unpacking...

Podcaster, Sex educator and prolific pornographer Tristan Taormino, who also happens to be our guest co-host for our upcoming Desire Resort takeover in November, joins us to talk about kinky sex and how she likes it. This episode was originally...

We talk about some of the highlights of our sexy times in San Francisco, including an excellent evening spent at an erotic dinner hosted by Our Gourmet Life Chef Chris Hubbard   Listen to this episode for a discount code that...

We've been doing some traveling this year, and part of that has been visiting new and interesting fetish clubs. In this episode we talk about our time at: Our sexy friend Cooper S Beckett from Life on the Swingset joins...

We've been doing some traveling this year, and part of that has been visiting new and interesting fetish clubs. In this episode we talk about our time at: Galleria Domain 2 in Chicago Choice Social Club in Rhode Island We were also...

In this supersize episode, Shara and I join our friends from Life on the Swingset to reminisce about our Desire Resort takeover back in November. This is also a special Swingset episode, as it marks the show's seventh anniversary! The...

During our trip to Fetish Fair Fleamarket, we had the opportunity to sit down with legendary kink educator Midori for one of our favorite interviews ever. This episode includes the conclusion of that interview, in which we talk about ForteFemme, Midori's...

During our trip to Fetish Fair Fleamarket, we had the opportunity to sit down with legendary kink educator Midori for one of our favorite interviews ever. This episode includes most of that interview (more to come next week). We talk...

Our long-time medical advisor finally joins us on the show to continue a discussion about PTSD & BDSM play that began a few episodes ago with a listener question. Sadly, due to some technical issues, we had to use the...

After a crazy holiday season, we ring in the new year with a new studio setup, and we hope you love the new sound as much as we do. Please let us know what you think! Listen to this episode...

On November 9th, the disco at Desire Resort became a dungeon for the first time and it was an amazing night. Shara and I could never have pulled it off without the support and assistance of several other kinky...

A submissive from Down Under asks questions about navigating the realm of BDSM when you have PTSD from sexual and physical abuse, including looking for a dominant online. Listen to this episode for a discount code that will score you...

A listener question about orgasms on command inspired an impromptu recording in paradise, which later inspired (and is included in) this episode. Honestly, it was a blast to both record and edit this one. Listen to this episode for a...

Ginger & The Prof join us again to pitch in discussing some kinky listener mail topics, including getting the confidence up to attend your first munch, dealing with sexual monotony when your kinky play becomes so predictable it feels...

Ginger & The Prof from Life on the Swingset (and their own upcoming podcast Intellectual Foreplay--we can't wait!) join us to reminisce about our trip to Desire in April...and plot what sorts of trouble we can cause on our upcoming...

A listener request for advice on bondage gear that doesn't cost a fortune led us on a winding road that ended with a new sponsor! This episode begins with a discussion of "pervertables" that can be found in various...

Topics include a younger guy with concerns about being attracted to other guys, a woman wondering how to work up the courage to go to a kinky munch, and a cowboy getting kicked out of bed for an odor...

A guy with stage 4 cancer needs to know if his submissive will be swallowing his chemotherapy drugs along with his jizz (see link below), advice on toning down your dominant side when it's too much for your partner,...

A concerned boyfriend is looking for tips to help his girl stand up to her controlling parents, a submissive needs help getting comfortable with talking dirty, and another submissive wants to bring sexy back to her marriage by bringing...

Listener mail topics include a question about fetishizing the scenario of a sexually experienced woman teaching an inexperienced guy how to fuck, exploring the psychology of taking constructive criticism as a submissive, books for new dominants who want to...

Kink-oriented listener questions on topics including collars in BDSM play and relationships, where to find BDSM checklists and how to get the most out of them, how a submissive can be assertive about getting kinky play without acting dominant,...

Listener questions from a swing-curious couple who had a chat with prospective playmates go sideways when boundaries were ignored, a woman with an issue that pops up at the brink of orgasm, a woman who wants to know what...

As we return from hiatus we reply to a listener's questions about her mental conflict between her feminist ideals and the concept of sexual submission. We also announce the digital re-release of the collected works of Tree of Shadows, J.V.'s...

Part 2 of our guide to sexual dominance focuses on tips and tricks for introducing BDSM to your play time without doing anything intimidating or obnoxious. This episode covers how a dominant can establish and enhance their power through...

The first installment of our guide on how to be a sexual dominant, the philosophy of dominance, dom space and why it's awesome, understanding what power the dominant does and doesn't have, discipline vs. punishment, and a bunch of...

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with potential new playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink. Show Links: Kink-positive...

A wrap up on the most basic concepts of BDSM including group play, fetish clubs, negotiating scenes and the meaning of the word "fetish," as well as a couple kink related listener mail items. Show Links: Fetlife.com J.V. on Fetlife Shara on Fetlife Direct...

A beginner's guide to understanding BDSM. This jumbo sized episode covers the definitions of: the acronym "BDSM", Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism & Masochism as well as Sadomasochism. We also talk about soft limits, hard limits, the...